joseph fink is not even in the vicinity of fucking around on twitter today
"If you want to learn what someone fears losing, watch what they photograph."
Unknown (via thexpotent)
This hit me harder than I expected.
food and boys, apparently. and a lot of old documents
This is the timeline expressions of my day to day life decisions
the turkey swiss on rye incident
"Stop saying sorry. Say thank you instead. When you say, “sorry for being a jerk” the other person is forced to either call you a jerk or say it wasnt a big deal. Instead, say “thank you for being so patient with me” so the other person has a reason to say they love you."
I saw this gem on Reddit tonight. It was posted under a topic of “What ‘little’ things you can do to improve your relationship with your significant other.” I’m definitely taking this piece of advice with me into my next relationship. (via blakebaggott)
so i was JUST talking about this, i am literally talking about this right now and taking a break from the conversation so that i can be like BUT TUMBLR! because i have noticed that i, as well as i think the language of this particular website, do this thing where we’re like “lol i’m garbage because i haven’t done this thing/did this thing that is bad/have done this thing that is generally shitty” which makes us feel good because we are “acknowledging our faults,” except—we’re not really? because what we’re doing is turning our faults into a joke, forcing the people around us to deny it or minimize its importance, and then doing nothing to change the behavior.
"i haven’t done this thing i promised you that i’d do, because i am fundamentally a garbage person," places the onus of the person i am talking to either to say, "nooo, you’re not garbage, you’ve been busy!!" or to say, "it’s whatever, don’t worry about it." we’re giving ourselves an out by pretending to be acknowledging responsibility.
it’s like the shittiest way ever to acknowledge that you fucked up? if what you did was garbage, then say, “that was garbage, i’m going to do better,” and then … do better. that’s it. admitting that you’ve made a mistake is all fine and good, but if you don’t make any attempt to rectify it—or adjust the behavior going forward—than it’s kind of a useless exercise.
anyway, if i do this to you/have done this to you, i am sorry. i will try to be better. if i ever say to you, “i am garbage,” and then give you the eye that says QUICK TELL ME I’M NOT GARBAGE, i hope you feel totally comfortable being like, “tbh, yeah. you kind of are right now.”
Mario Balotelli is an Italian footballer who may soon become a Liverpool player. He has long been one of my favorite players, and I can’t help but think that the way his reputation in Europe is shaped by race. (Balotelli has been the victim of horrific racist chants throughout his career, but I also think institutional racism shapes media coverage and popular opinion, as pointed out here and elsewhere.)
Balotelli is certainly an unusual footballer: Once, while signing an autograph for a child, Balotelli learned the kid was being bullied, and then drove across town to confront the bully and discuss the matter with the school principal. And he is famed for his generosity, although this is often portrayed popularly as an inability to handle his money well.
He also has a reputation for volatility and immaturity, and is often criticized for getting in fights with teammates. He once threw a dart at a younger player. You hear a lot that Balotelli is crazy and/or lazy. You hear that he stays out late.
Now, I think some of Balotelli’s professional behavior has been poor, and I’m not here to defend it. But look at the way we treat white players:
Liverpool’s Robbie Fowler once PRETENDED TO SNORT THE WHITE POWDER OF THE TOUCH LINE after scoring a goal, in reference to his cocaine use.
Craig Bellamy drunkenly beat a teammate with a golf club.
Peter Beagrie once drunkenly stole someone’s motorbike and drove it through a hotel’s plate glass window.
Point being, in all the cases above (and many, many, many more) the offenses were seen as youthful indiscretions, or as hilarious examples of Boys being Boys.
Fowler is now a coach; Beagrie is now a well-respected commentator; and Bellamy is still playing. You rarely hear about his on- and off-field indiscretions, even though they’re probably more numerous than Balotelli’s. Meanwhile, Balotelli makes the news (and gets fined $200,000) for eating curry.
Those of you who follow football will begin to hear a lot about Balotelli if he returns to play in England. You will hear about how he cried after being substituted (although you might not hear that he cried because he had to sit on the bench while racist chants rang through the stadium). You will hear about how he is “wild” and “unpredictable” and “lazy.”
But watch him play. Watch how good and smart and creative he can be, how he can find paths to goal that make people call him lazy (they called Messi lazy, too, remember) when really he is just waiting, like the chess master who sees four moves ahead. Watch him off the ball, moving to reshape the opposition’s defense.
And then watch him score, turn around unsmiling, and lift his shirt to ask the immense and complicated question.
when you see a dog from across the street
stupid boots that hurt my feet
Protests in the St. Louis suburb have continued since Saturday (August 9th). Here’s what we know about the events of the past few days.
And in the nature of keeping everyone in the loop, please reblog this link if you’re going to spread word about it. It’s just a list, impartial, a great way to know everything from start to current events.